I'm just finishing paying what I hope are the last bills associated with Abby's birth. It's really amazing how fragmented the billing can be.
During one of my conversations the customer service person said, "Oh, she didn't have a name yet. Does she have a name now?"
Giving the answer was a bit painful. First off, she had a name before she was even born. This was the first time that was the case for us. So, yes she has a name... she always did. Your doctors just didn't put it in their paperwork.
And although has a name "now", she's not here now.
It's the mundane that can make my chest ache with missing her, with sadness.