Trever sent a note to someone we know who's son died a few years ago. Dan is Trever's brother's good friend. I remember so clearly when Jack died. I was devastated for them. Hearing about someone's child dying in a situation where they had little to no time to realize what was happening is terrifying.
They sent us a note not long after Abby died. It was touching. I don't know the family, but they sent their love and I am so thankful for that.
Here is Dan's response to Trever's note:
Trev- The thoughts go both ways, welcome to a sucky club. Kristen and I got lucky we got into a great support group early on and found it was a great and much needed outlet. The facilitator used a great analogy that everyone there was a zebra amongst a large group of horses, in that we could run the same and act the same, it's just that others could not see our stripes. Keep all those great memories close as there will be nary a day that goes by that you don't think about her or are reminded of what could have been. Choose to celebrate with those close to you and commit to stay strong together! Understand your limits, look out for tricky situations and have a back up plan just in case it gets to be to much(especially around the holidays) feel free and give me a shout if you just want to talk
Words of wisdom. Wisdom that no one wants to have. A membership in a sucky club, so true.